>Valentines day is such an interesting time of the year. It is a time when men and women alike are reminded that we are supposed to cherish that special someone that God has placed in our life. I say reminded because we forget. Naturally we tend to get complacent with things. It’s easy to think “Ya ya I see you every day”.
What makes you think of and appreciate your wife or husband? What is that special thing that they do for you and have always done, that lets you know they love you? Or do you just overlook it because it’s so normal to you know. What do you do for them now that you started because…
you loved them enough to want to serve them? and even more to think about, do you now do this just out of habit? Or worse, do you do it with an attitude? Do you selfishly serve your wife or husband because of what it will benefit you? Do you complain in the midst of serving? I ask all of these questions to myself as well.
Phil 2 :3 Don’t be selfish; don’t live to make a good impression on others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourself. 4 Don’t think only about your own affairs, but be interested in others, too, and what they are doing.
Phil 2:14 In everything you do, stay away from complaining and arguing
Its starts with a choice. Love isn’t a feeling. When we feel happy its easy to “Love”, but when you are feeling down you can still love. God says the way to Love him is to obey him. This isn’t based on how we feel. It’s based on a choice we make to obey or not to obey. When we make the right choice, we express our true love. We can say we love someone or that we love God, but the truth is expressed not in our words, but in our actions. To love my wife is to serve her. Even when I don’t think she deserves it, even when I feel like I don’t want to, and especially even when she’s wrong (at least in my mind she’s wrong, I mean I can’t be wrong, right?).
Seriously though, What I have found is that when I serve her I get as much joy out of it as she does. I then start to look for more ways to express my love to her. And when she feels loved, its easier for her to express her love to me. It can be a cycle that doesn’t stop. I am no expert on marriage(for sure). I was married for 4 years to an amazing woman that I, at many times, took for granted. After she passed I am extremely blessed to be married again, to an equally amazing woman now for a year and a half. I know I still have a lot to learn (can you say understatement?). Of course these verses are true for anyone not just my wife, but I can’t do it everywhere else and not to the person that is supposed to matter to me most. Although it may be difficult to humbly think of others as more highly than myself, I know that God’s word will never fail me. So since I can and it’s my blog, I thought I would list some of the great ways Allie shows her love for me…
1- She will make me something to eat no matter what time of the day (or night) it is and how tired or busy she is, not only that, but she will do it with a smile. 2- she knows my schedule better than I do and makes sure I don’t miss anything important, and doesn’t make me feel dumb for forgetting. 3- If There is something I need to do she will set what I need it in a place she knows I will not forget it, and even send me reminders throughout the day. 4- She encourages me constantly, even about the smallest things in our life. 5- She always thanks me and tells me how much she appreciates me when I serve her.
She does all of these things not on one day of the year. She does it everyday and never complains.