If you want to know WHY I am the bad guy you can read part 1 here
In my last post I mentioned that I had to teach my son about choices and consequences. He made a poor decision and much to his dismay, he had to endure the consequences for those actions.
He was undoubtably wrong in choosing to defame the wall of his father. But what did he immediately do?
All he knew was he got in trouble, so he blamed his father for being the bad guy! His father must have wanted him to get a spanking, his father wanted him to be in time out. His father was being mean and bad by disciplining him.
The fact that he made a wrong choice was overshadowed by the consequence of it.
He forgot it was his poor judgement that put him in that place.
He FAILED to take responsibility! I know I know he’s three he has much to learn. How can we relate?
You see, it’s not enough to suffer the consequences! We won’t learn from our mistakes until we accept our part in them.
Proverbs 26:11 As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his foolishness.
We all know the person that never wants to “own” up to their mistakes or shortcomings. They want to blame “The bad guy”; The cop who shouldn’t have been there, The guy for pressing them to do it, The girl who handed them the drug! We made the choice… we had to decide whether or not we wanted walk on the side of our values or not. When we chose wrong we immediately want to blame.(because it can’t be me of course).
Okay we all know that person, but let’s be honest! The reason we know that person is because we are that person. We have to take responsibility and then learn from our mistakes. Hopefully my son learned that if HE makes a poor choice it’s on him. It is because of what he did.
When we play the blame game we never learn, when we don’t learn we keep making the same mistakes and blaming something else. Do yourself a favor! take it from me, The “bad guy”, learn to admit when you are wrong and made a mistake or made a poor choice sooner rather than later.then you will be happier like this guy!